Posted in Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Poetry, tagged Add new tag, Davis County Clipper, Forgiving Mom, Losing Mom on Thanksgiving Day, Louise D. Brown, Michelle Pierce, Tom Busselberg, Tom Busselburg on November 29, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
On Thanksgiving Day, the second anniversary of my Mother’s death, I had the rare privilege of seeing the Davis County Clipper do a feature on the two women who helped me with my book – Michelle Pierce (the designer) and her Mom, Louise D. Brown (my editor). A special thanks to reporter Tom Busselberg. A big [...]
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My Mother died on Thanksgiving Night of 2006. Yet this will be a joyous holiday for me, because I chose to settle things with Mom before she died. If you haven’t done so, do it now. Whatever the history, no matter how horrible her crime, find a way to forgive. Trust me, this is a selfish act. You will be doing it for yourself. Oh, yes…it will make your Mother much happier too (big smile).
My Mom and I…what to say. Our relationship was
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Posted in Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Holidays, Poetry, Thanksgiving, tagged Death, Grieving, Losing Mom on Thanksgiving Day, Mom dies, Thanksgiving on November 2, 2008 | 1 Comment »
November has arrived, and with it one of the most powerful memories I have. My Mother died Thanksgiving night. I’d often wondered how it felt when you lost someone on an important holiday. Now I know, and I wrote the following poem – reflecting on a most wonderful passing…
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Posted in Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Poetry, Politics, tagged Add new tag, campaign signs, Deathbed, Deathbed Confession, Debate, Elections, George Bush, Politics, Thomas Jefferson on August 29, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Several days before she died, my Mother, a “die hard” Republican who still loved Richard Nixon and still believed weaspons of mass destruction were somewhere in Iraq (long after the administration had said otherwise) looked at me and said, “Well, what do you think of our current leadership in America?”
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Posted in Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Poetry, tagged Child performing for parents, children dancing, Dad, Mom, Parents, School Performance, sixth grade performance no parents on May 16, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Mom wasn’t there and Dad wasn’t there
My class performed a musical
I looked out but couldn’t find them
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Posted in Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Mother's Day, No Mom Mother's Day, Poetry, tagged Dying process, Fights With Mom, Grieving, Hospice, make peace with MOM, mom daughter fighting, mom poems, Mother's Day, Mother's Death, Parent's Death, Poetry, religion on May 7, 2008 | 5 Comments »
Make peace with your Mom before she dies. Trust me, it is a selfish act. This Sunday will be my second “No Mom For Mother’s Day.” I will not grieve her absence. The occasion will be full of joy…all because I dismantled my ego.
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Posted in Anorexia, Bulimia, Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Gaining Weight, Grieving, Healing, Losing Weight, Mother's Day, No Mom Mother's Day, Poetry, tagged Add new tag, Anorexia, Bulimia, Diet, Gaining Weight, Grieving, Losing Weight, Mother's Day, No Mom Mother's Day, weight on May 2, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Mom and I not getting along. She had hangup with weight.
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Posted in Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Mother's Day, No Mom Mother's Day, Poetry, Uncategorized, tagged Death, Mom, Dying, Grieving, Mother's Day, No Mom Mother's Day, death of Mother, Hospice, caregiving on May 1, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Are you like me? My Mother died last year. Also, I don’t have children…so the day will come and go like any other.
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“I used to get angry looking for Mother’s Day cards. None reflected my reality. Complex and conflicted,” admits author Linda Athis, “that was my relationship with Mom. Quite dramatically, near the end of her life, I had a huge, emotional download. I was anxious and driven. I could not stop the words, scribbling on scraps of paper, restaurant napkins, crying into a digital recorder. Once I hid in the bathroom to dictate my poetry, not wanting to worry my already alarmed husband.”
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Posted in Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Poetry, tagged Dying, love, Mom, Mother, signs on April 9, 2008 | 1 Comment »
My mom loved me.
I denied it for years,
until years of living told me.
It wasn’t as if she readily said it.
For her, that was too difficult.
Yet a tiny sack of garden tomatoes
slipped tenderly inside my porch door,
a heat pad tucked secretly in my bed,
a gesture to warm me,
the night my father died.
These were the proof
I denied [...]
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Posted in Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Poetry, tagged Anorexia, Diet, Eating disorders, Forgiving Mom, Losing Weight, Mom, Mother, Pounds on April 9, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I saw you do it, Mom.
You cannot hide
the stolen glance I see
each time we meet.
We hug,
and you look down
at my belly.
So sorry.
I’ve not lost weight.
Not even tried.
Those days are gone.
I only wish
your wishing was.
I was your beauty,
but then came the years,
not wrinkles—
pounds.
You loved me dearly once,
when my wrists and knees
were sparrow thin.
You held me gently,
and [...]
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Posted in Death, Dying, Forgiveness, Forgiving Mom, Grieving, Poetry, tagged curse, Death, Dying, embrace, fear, forgive, grief, Grieving, love. second life, Mom, motherhood, overheard on April 8, 2008 | 3 Comments »
The most loving embrace
I ever gave,
was over a toilet.
There sat my Mother
unable to speak,
pleading for response
from a body shutting down.
Our eyes met in fear.
We did not share
what we both knew.
Death whispered near.
I’m sorry she said,
as if she caused this,
had cruelly wished a curse
upon me, her caregiver.
In that second my heart split,
ripped raw by a mean [...]
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