Dear visitor:
Nearly two years ago, I began writing poetry about my Mother. She died on Thanksgiving Day 2006. Now that I’ve published my verse about Forgiving Mom, I want to use this blog to encourage you to share your stories, your verses about forgiveness. Why do we spend so much time holding back? Once we allow it, life takes on a fresh and unexpected joy. Obstacles simply fall away.
The choice is ours: Anger & frustration, or joy. The decision appears so simple. The getting there is the true mystery.
Please use the comment box below to share your thoughts. All comments will be reviewed before posting. I openly trust you to use your original thoughts and poetry for this page, and give credit if you use another’s words.
Warmly
Hi,
I was a mom at sixteen, with my daughter Milinda.
She is now 30 years old and a mother of four beautiful children.
She has not forgiven me for the mistakes I made as a mom, and it’s hindering our relationship and mine as a grandmother to my grandbabies.
Tell me a little more about your mom, please,
thank you,
Cheryl
So it is that I find you, your story, your book. I understand my own story… My mother died in 2002, I finally understood her in her final days. I made peace with who she was and how she came to be.
Today I received a letter from my own daughter age 35, I have disappointed her in my grandmother skills. Her email hurt, but relieved she shared.
Today, I am reminded of the poem that had no author…
“I look in the mirror, what do I see?
The shadow of my mother?
Surely not I
Now with compassion,
I forgive, I excuse,
As I sense all your feelings as I walk in your shoes.”
I believe all becomes understood, once we look within.
Sadly I didnt know my mother until she needed me the most. I took care of her because she was a sick old woman, not because she was my mother.
At some point, I realized, I was in fact taking care of my mother. But that was days after her death.
I still find times when I start to pick up the phone to share something with her… but she is not there.
I wonder will my daughter feel the same toward me?
Thank you for writing this book, for sharing your heart. Nice not to be alone in feeling.
i am 16 years old and i dont have a great relationship with my mom anymore. As i have grown older i have seen how far apart we are getting. Her being a single mom and me being a teenager. its been really hard to seen how far apart we ar now because she is one of the greatest women i have ever met. she strong hearted and willing to do anything for any one. i just wanted to let everyone know that reads this that your mom is everything. she may be rich or poor, but that doesnt make her a bad mom. NEVER TAKE YOUR MOM FOR GRANTID. YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOU MIGHT LOSE HER.
Rachel